I think all humans (well minus some suffering from certain mental health issues) have the ability to feel emotions strongly. Compassion, love, anger – etc.
They say when someone goes through something bad – that person gets stronger. The more someone goes through the stronger they become.
But lately I’ve started wondering – is it because that person has become stronger? Or is it more so because they’ve lost their ability to feel? The way organs will become fibrotic with constant abuse or trauma- do emotions do the same?
Are people stronger because their emotions became “fibrotic”, and hence they lost the ability to feel hurt by the same bad thing happening again?
The strongest people externally are the weakest on the inside. But for those few who are exceptionally strong inside and out… there will always come a breaking point. Just because something or someone is strong doesn’t mean everyone else should keep testing its/their strength.
Just because something or someone can bare weight, doesn’t mean that they want to.
Why push people to their limits, and then call them crazy when they finally snap?? They’re not crazy. They just couldn’t hold anymore BS weight.
San Diego, I miss you so much.
I had a life. I had roots. I had established myself as a person, a professional, and a talent in San Diego.
Aside from my personal life/relationship – Who am I here? In a town full of strangers? I took a huge step. I stepped out of my comfort zone into a stranger’s land.
Restarting makes me feel like a nobody. And it feels like this stranger’s land wants me to stay a nobody. When I try to find my footing I have no idea where to step. Where to start!
I’ve never felt more lost than I do today. But I guess that’s what moving to a new town means.
Guess it’s time to pave my own path. Good thing I have the ability to do so. Needing people has never been my thing – I liked it – but I didn’t need it.
One thing for sure though – once I achieve what I need to achieve, however long it takes, I don’t plan on looking back.
Point: Complacency. A lack of motivation to right the wrongs of life.
We all have shortcomings, and we have all failed at something or another in life. Some more than others, but that’s irrelevant to what I want to say.
The point is we have all failed in some way at some point or another. The difference between a winner and a loser however isn’t that failure, but rather the lack of motivation to acknowledge the failure and try to find a way to reverse it.
The most unattractive person would be the one who allowed his or her failure to turn into quicksand. Once they start sinking, they just continue to sink.
Yes, life gets hard sometimes. I would be one of those people who really knows what that means. Often times a hard life is accompanied by severe depression. I know this based on first hand experience as well! Sometimes life doesn’t give us the tools to get back up. But that’s when you have to go and find them. If you have the tools and just choose to ignore them… well then shame.
Introspect, assess the situation, and find the right people to guide you out of the darkness. It’s not ok to be complacent. It’s not ok to just be “ok” with failure. It’s important to tackle the issue head on. Set aside your ego, ask for help. ASK FOR HELP. But make sure you ask the right people for help. Your gut intuition will cue you in on that.
The solution to this loser-dom is simple. It doesn’t mean you’ll be successful, it just means keep trying. If you fall down, pick yourself up and keep trying.
Which is pretty much why everyone should at least try to refrain from achieving it.